1- KNOW THAT ALLAH HAS CHOSEN YOU
From all the creatures in the world, Allah chose you, the human being, to give the gift of intellect. From all the billions of human beings, Allah chose you, the Muslim, to give the gift of guidance, the ability to use your intellect.
Allah saw something special in you that maybe you yourself don’t see yet. You are a special choice of Allah. Have trust in Allah’s choice.
2- KNOW THAT NOTHING HE ASKS YOU TO DO IS BEYOND YOUR CAPACITY
And strive for Allah with the striving due to Him. He has chosen you and has not placed upon you in the religion any difficulty. (22:78) Someone once told me: “I pray all the prayers throughout the day, but I just can’t wake up for Fajr.”
Another person said: “I do pray all five prayers, but I pray them together at the end of the day. It’s not possible to pray them on time, my life’s so hectic.”
The thing is, Allah ordered us to pray all five prayers, and pray them within their proper times.
Indeed, prayer has been decreed upon the believers a decree of specified times. (4:103)
Do you think that Allah told you to do something that’s impossible for you?
Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned… (2:286)
When we have low self-confidence, even easy tasks can seem very difficult to us. That doesn’t make the task undoable; we have just tied our own hands, and all we need to do is untie ourselves.
Believe in Allah when He says you can do it. Believe Him when He says that He wants ease for you, not hardship. (2:185)
3- BEFRIEND CONFIDENT PEOPLE
Be with people who have self-confidence, because it’s contagious.
In the Prophet’s words:
The example of a good pious companion and an evil one is that of a person carrying musk and another blowing a pair of bellows. The one who is carrying musk will either give you some perfume as a present, or you will buy some from him, or you will get a good smell from him, but the one who is blowing a pair of bellows will either burn your clothes or you will get a bad smell from him. (Al-Bukhari 5534)
4- KNOW THAT ALL YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS ARE FROM SATAN
Whenever you have the thought “I can’t do it”, remember that it’s not really your mind that’s speaking it; it’s Satan. How do you like the idea of having Satan inside your head, continuously discouraging you? How do you like the idea of obeying what Satan says?
Fortify yourself against Satan. Connect to the Quran and increase remembrance of Allah, especially in the morning and evening.
5- BEWARE OF PERFECTIONISM
“When I start growing beard, I will do it properly,” I have heard that excuse more than once.
“I will only give exam when I know I can get 100% marks,” if you’d decided that, would you even pass your first grade?
Does Allah want perfection from us?
So fear Allah as much as you are able and listen and obey and spend [in the way of Allah]; it is better for your selves…. (64:16)
When a child can’t swallow a whole medicine tablet, a wise mom breaks it into two or three pieces and makes him swallow one piece at a time. What would happen if she insisted that he’d grow up first so that he can swallow it whole?
It takes time for a seed to grow into a full-blown tree. Give yourself time. Just make sure that you’re making progress. Don’t compare yourself to other people, rather compare yourself to what you were yesterday.