Luckily Allah has given us a perfect portrait in the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) to help break that routine.
Here are five practical, yet powerful, lessons from the Messenger to help rekindle our relationships.
1) Smile Often
The Prophet used to smile often. So much so that his companions would say they never saw anyone smile more than him.
It’s easy to forget how powerful a simple smile can be.
Husband or Wife; we all have long and strenuous days. Instead of bombarding your spouse with complaints on first sight, engage them with a smiling face.
The Prophet even told us that simple smile is an act of charity.
2) Say Sweet Somethings
Prophet Muhammad would say:
“Whoever believes in Allah and the Day of Judgment let them say good or keep quiet.”
It’s very easy to nitpick at our spouses. We are around each other all the time.
Instead of searching out faults, point out qualities.
Try to make it a new daily habit of complimenting your spouse.
3) Don’t Get Angry
When Ali married Fatimah, the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave him amazing words of advice.
Advice so important that the Prophet repeated it three times:
“Don’t get Angry”.
He didn’t tell him control you anger, but rather don’t get angry in the first place.
We get angry at our spouses for the silliest things, from how they squeeze the toothpaste bottle to how they wash the dishes.
Chill out. Instead, smile and say something sweet.
4) Go Out Together
The Prophet would spend quality time with his spouse.
He didn’t live a separate life under the same roof.
He would go on walks with his wife, travel with his wife, and seek her advice. He would engage in stimulating conversation.
When was the last time you took spouse out for a nice dinner (not talking about curry in a hurry) or went out for a cup of coffee?
5) Say “I Love You”
The Messenger of Allah was not afraid to profess his love.
Our religion is built on it as God states:
“My love is guaranteed for two who love one another for My sake”.
He would often speak of the great affection he had for his wife Khadijah.
“Her love was given to me as Rizq” he was quoted as saying.
Many of us are probably unable to recall the last time we said it to our spouse. That’s not prophetic.
So there you have it:
Smile, Say Something Sweet, Don’t Get Angry, Go Out and Say “ I Love you” – remember and practice.