The Prophet (pbuh) guided his Ummah (nation) to everything that is good and warned them against everything that is evil. Bad morals are among the things which the Prophet (pbuh)warned us against. They are detestable and indicate an unrighteous demeanour that usually arises from the unsoundness of the heart.
Bad manners are established and constructed upon four pillars: ignorance, injustice, desires and anger.
Ignorance makes a person misinterpret the things. It makes a person see beauty in ugly things and ugliness in beautiful things. An ignorant person sees a perfect thing as deficient and deficient thing as perfect.
Injustice makes a person evil and makes him place things in inappropriate places, therefore, he is angry when he is ought to be pleased and pleased when the thing must annoy him. He becomes stingy when he should be charitable and generous when he must be miserly. He retreats when he should be courageous, and advances when he should retreat.
An unjust person becomes lenient when he ought to be tough and vice versa. He is also proud and arrogant most of the times when he should be humble.
A person's desires make him miserly, stingy, unchaste, greedy, gluttonous, and lowly… to the end of all evil attributes.
Anger drives one to be ostentatious, spiteful, envious, aggressive and foolish.
These evil morals form the basis of other bad morals. The fundamental causes of which are excessive weakness and excessive power.
Excessive weakness leads to humiliation, miserliness, meanness, ignobility, baseness, stinginess and fanaticism on trivialities.
Excessive power leads to injustice, anger, stiffness, foulness and indiscretion.
When the bad morals are combines they give place to more bad morals. The human soul becomes haughtiest when he has the power and feels humiliated when he is subdued. He is aggressive and tyrannical, but, when subdued, he may become weaker than a woman. He is weak in front of powerful and powerful in front of weak.
Causes that may result in bad manners.
Hatred. Hatred is a particular cause of a specific bad manner. A person avoids the one whom he hates and would treat him in a, particularly bad way. If the bad manner is caused by something, it ends only when its cause comes to an end.
Scholars and the Righteous Predecessors Warn Against Bad Morals
Al-Fudhayl ibn ‘Iyaadh (ra)said, “Do not socialize with a person who has bad morals, for he calls to nothing except evil.”
He also said, “Accompanying a good-mannered man with no religious practice is better for me than accompanying a worshipper who is bad-mannered.”
Al-Hasan (ra) said, “The ill-mannered person is a self-tormentor.
Yahya ibn Mu‘aath (ra)said, “Being bad mannered is an evil deed with which a lot of good deeds would [nevertheless] not be beneficial. Having good manners is a good deed with which a lot of evil deeds would not be harmful.”
Imam Al-Ghazaali (Ra)said, “Bad morals are deadly poisons, massive destruction, disgraceful ignominy, flagrant vices and wicked attributes that keep one away from Allah, the Almighty. Bad manners cause one to sink into the company of the devils and lead to the kindled fire of Allah which leaps up over the hearts.”
He also said, “Wicked morals are the diseases of hearts and illnesses of the inner-selves; they would make man miss the everlasting life.”
A muslim must socialize with others but he should warn himself of and keep himself away from bad company. Good manners represent faith whereas bad manners represent hypocrisy.
Ramifications of Bad Manners
Ill-mannered persons are spoken of badly and they are detected in the sight of Allah and in the sight of His Prophet (pbuh)Also, all the people, irrespective of their attitudes, dislike them.
It was narrated on the authority of Jaabir ibn ‘Abdullaah, may Allah be pleased with him, that the Prophet (pbuh)said: “And the most detested to me and farthest from me in the Hereafter will be those of the worst manners.” [Ahmad, Al-Albaani - Hasan]
The ill-mannered person is the one whom people dispraise a lot and which he himself hears. It was narrated on the authority of Ibn ‘Abbaas, may Allah be pleased with them, that the Prophet (pbuh) said:“The people of Paradise are those whom Allah, The Almighty, fills their ears with people's praise while they hear it, and the people of Hell are those whom Allah, The Almighty, fills their ears with people's dispraise while they hear it.” [Ibn Maajah, Al-Albaani - Saheeh]
Ill-mannered people cause troubles, grief, distress and poverty to themselves as well as causing suffering to others.
Abu Haazim Salamah ibn Dinaar said, “Wretchedness due to ill manners afflicts the ill-mannered person himself the most, then his wife, and then his children. When he enters his house while his children are happy, they would rush away out of fear at the sound of his voice. His riding animal would even swerve from his way because of the stones that he hurls at it. His dog would bounce against the wall upon seeing him and even his cat would escape from him.”
And Allah knows best.