Most of our youth raise a question as to why be a death penalty the punishment for homosexuality and why is it even forbidden if Allah made a person that way. If a person is born in a way than why is he condemned?
Al-Junayd in ‘Hilyat al-Awliya said:
“ A person is not to be blamed for his nature. Rather he is to be blamed if he acts according to his nature”
We need to understand that no one is condemned to hell because of their nature or simply because of what they desire and what thoughts cross their mind. A person is doomed to hell if he/she acts according to his desires i.e. if he engages in sinful activities. A thought and an action are two different things.
Men and women are attracted to opposite gender but that doesn’t take them to hell, what becomes haram is the way they act after the infatuation has occurred. AN infatuation or liking someone doesn’t give anyone reason to commit the more grievous sins. You don’t have the right to lust after the opposite gender outside the bonds of marriage. A person can pursue intimacy in a wedlock and not out of it.
Similarly, a person who is attracted to the same gender must not get carried away with it. We can’t help what we feel but we can definitely control it. And the more we control it the better.
In today's world, we see large population is drawn towards sexual desires more than before. The simple solution is getting married but people end up giving in to their desires and commit sins. The surrender to what they feel and their desires and stoop so low only to gain a moments pleasure.
A human is supposed to have control over his desires and it is one of the ways Allah has tested us. Believers submit themselves only to Allah and refrain from submitting to the desires and whims of this world. Remember this is not paradise.
A person who has such tendencies must do as much to be close to Allah and don’t give second thoughts to whatever crosses their mind.
A believer must always pray to Allah and make many supplications that Allah heal him from whatever is affecting him.
A believer must be patient with the Qadr of Allah and never submit to the ways of kufaar.
A believer must seek help in patience and prayer.
There are many reports of people having their sexual interests switched over a period of time. So with the help of Allah if one stands firm on his deen and control what he feels, Allah will surely take him out of this trial.
It may be a test of Allah on certain people, what is required is ones patience and trust in Allah and never act in any sinful manner.
And Allah knows best.
May Allah heal us all.