Assalamu alaikum my dear Muslim brothers and sisters. Today I am going to write about this issue and as you all know what is the topic. ''Why Good Muslims Commit Sins''
You know, there are a lot of Muslims who are praying regularly and reciting Quran, they are even doing Umrah but at the same time, they can't get away from certain evil practices in their alone time.
There are 2 parts of this problem, one of those parts is spiritual and the other part is psychological and I am going to address both of those parts, Let me start with psychological only because most of the time when we have these discussions we don't address the psychological side, we only address the spiritual side so i will try to address the psychological side of this a little bit, you have to understand that there are triggers in psychological, in other words, there are certain situations that make your mnd, they release certain chemecals in your brain and they make you want to do something in certain settings, they are triggers, so for example, a young man is watching an action movie and he is watching the movie and he sees a beautiful women and as soon as he sees that one scene, his mind gets triggered and he pauses the movie and watches something far worse and he gets into the habit of doing that, it wasn't the movie itself, it was just that one scene that triggered it or for some people when they go back into their apartment or in their room, when they are alone by themself, bad thing happen when they are by themself.
When they are at the Masjid obviously it doesn't happen, when they are with their friends it doesn't happen, when they are on their own it happens so the first bit of advice for everyone and myself is that you have to identify when does the sin happen when i am by myself? Where am i when it happens? What time does it happen? And if you can identify the problem times and the problem places and the problem situations, you have to try to change those situations. If you are a young man and you have a problem with, you know the kinds of things that are available on the internet and you are looking at those kinds of things, for example, put your laptop, put your mobile device, put it in the kitchen so that your mothers walking by, your dads walking by, don't put it in your room, put these stuff in a visible places in the house, these screens are destroying our kids, seriously.
Another thing is spiritual side of this problem, it's a normal for a human being to make tawbah to Allah and then go back and do the sin again because we are Khattah'un. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) described us not as Khaati'un but Khattah'un and Khattah is called a hyperbolize state. What that means in simple English is the one who repeats mistakes over and over again. You know a Khattah makes mistakes over and over again so that will happen, it's inevitable that some sins will occur over and over again, however, if in the back of your mind, the moment you made tawbah, you are already thinking about three weeks from now i am gonna be doing this again anyway, if you are thinking that in the back of your head then it's wrong, tawbah is not for people who continually do evil deeds, they have already accepted it.
Allah says: they don't insist on what they did, in other words, you have to make a serious verbalized conscious commitment ''THIS HAS TO STOP'' Not that one time to cry and you turn to Allah 'i am sorry' i can't believe i did this and you don't do it, you know you have to figure out a way and to get away from this entirely, a serious commitment to yourself and if you can't do it on your own, seek the help of friends, seek the help of people you trust, i know it's embrassig somtimes but we all need counsil and help sometimes and when you realize that its been going on for years and you haven't been able to get out of it, it's time to seek someone's help which is why in the Ummah to psyshological and spiritual counselling is so important, so many young people are in need of counselling and families are in need of counseling that is one of the greatest preorities of this ummah because that will bea vichele by which peace will be dilivered to people.
May Allah (swt) forgive our sins