When that time of the month comes, most of the women hit the vacation mode. They simple become lazy and just because they are exempted from praying or fasting, they take the time to do NOTHING. Well, this should not be the case. Also, many women face the drop in the level of motivation to keep up the daily adhkaar and when they have purified themselves, they find it difficult to pray again. The struggle is real!
However, we must know that the good deed accounts don't stop when a women is menstruating for the angels are continuing writing down good deeds as long as a women is doing good actions in order to please Allah.
In this article, we will try to discuss some option that women may follow not to be distanced from deen or to still be able to gain rewards.
The following are 10 good acts women can do whilst on her menses:
1. Listening to Quran Recitation.
Listening to Quran has a great reward. It is a perfume to the soul. It calms and soothes one's mind. Instead of listening to the music, one can simply listen to the words of Allah. Apart from gaining rewards, sisters can also find peace and pleasure in it. Utilize your time in listening to Quran and in understanding it.
Abu Nu’aim states, in his Tib an-Nabbi, that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said that the benefits of listening to recitation are increased when it is understood – that is when its meaning is understood.
Allah Himself says: so give good news to My slaves, those who listen to the word and then follow the best of i(Qur’an: 39.17-1
Source: As-Suyuti’s Medicine of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam)
2. Try to understand the meaning of Quran.
Allaah, Most High, Says in the Quran (what means): "Then do they not reflect upon the Quran? If it had been from [any] other than Allaah, they would have found within it much contradiction." [Quran: 4:82]
Why not utilize the free time in understanding the words of Allah? How much benefit could we reap in the free time and how close could sisters get to Allah during the time they thought they can do nothing.
We should try to understand the Qur'an:
Ibn Kathir says regarding tafsir of [Soorah al-A'raf (7): 179]: The similitude of the one, who memorizes the Qur'an but does not act in accordance to it, is like a donkey, which carries a load of books, but does not understand!
3. Increase in Dikhr of Allah.
Allah has forbidden to pray salat or fast but never has he said that a woman is not to mention Him. No matter what you can always remember Allah, praise him, thank him. It is the time when a woman can do excessive dhikr night and day.
Mu`adh Ibn Jabal (RA) said that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: "The People of Paradise will not regret anything except one thing alone: the hour that passed them by in which they made no remembrance of Allah." Narrated Bayhaqi in Shu`ab al-iman (1:392 #512-513)
The highest rank in Jannah are for those who remembered Allah the most:
Abu Sa`id (RA) narrates the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) was asked, "Which of the servants of Allah is best in rank before Allah on the Day of resurrection?" He said: "The ones who remember him much."I said: "O Messenger of Allah, what about the fighter in the way of Allah?" He answered: "Even if he strikes the unbelievers and mushrikin with his sword until it broke, and becomes red with their blood, truly those who do Dhikr are better than him in rank." (Ahmad, Tirmidhi, & Bayhaqi)
So we should set ourselves daily targets of doing as much Dhikr as we can. We can remember & glorify Allah whatever we are doing throughout the day. At work, whilst cooking, shopping & even whilst relaxing. We should remember Allah in our heart's & not just by our tongues. We should also contemplate over his magnificence & his creations & imagine him in front of us as we glorify & remember him.
The following are 10 Dhikr, supported by Hadith that one can recite throughout the day & night until our last breath:
4. Allahu Akbar
5. Laa ilaaha illallah
6. LA HAWLA WA LA QUWWATA ILLA BILLAH-HIL ALIYYIL ADHEEM
7. Asthaghfirullah-halladhee Laa ilaaha illa-huwal Hayyul Qayyuumu Wa athoobu Ilay
Or short version: Asthaghfirullah
8. SUB-HAAN'ALLAAHi WA BI-HAM'DIHI SUB-HAAN'ALLAH-IL ADHEEM
Or short version: SUB-HAAN'ALLAAHi WA BI-HAM'DIHI
9. Subhāna-llāhi, wa-l-hamdu li-llāhi, wa lā ilāha illā-llāhu, wa-llāhu akbar. Wa lā hawla wa lā quwwata illā bi-llāhi-l-aliyyi-l-azīm
10. Lā ilāha illā-llāhu waḥdahu lā sharīka lahu lahu-l-mulku wa lahu-l-ḥamdu yuhyi wa yumītu wa huwa ḥayyu-llā yamūtu abadan abada, ḏū-l-jalāli wa-l-ikrām, biyadihi-l-khayr, wa huwa alā kulli Shay-in qadīr
Or the shortened version:
Laa ilaaha illal-laahu wahdahu laa shareeka lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu wa huwa ‘alaa kulli shay-in qadeer
We should also recite much of durood e Ibrahim which is the durood that is recited towards the end of Salaah.
Or the shortest durood is: Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallim
4. Make dua and repent sincerely
All believers must understand the fact that Allah never ceases to listen to the call of the believer. Sisters in Menstruation must know that their dua is still heard by the Lord of the Heavens and Earth. Being on period must never stop you from making any dua.
Almighty Allah says in the Qur'an: "When my servants ask you concerning me, (tell them) I am indeed close (to them). I listen to the prayer of every suppliant when he calls on me." [2:186]
The place of Dua is so high in front of Allah, that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallim) has said: "Nothing is more honorable to Allah the Highest than Dua." [Sahih al-Jami` no.5268].
In your dua, seek repentance and ask Allah to forgive you for your sins.
Allah loves repentance & loves those who turn to him in sincere repentance:
Truly Allah loves those who turn [to Him] in repentance... (Qur'an 2:222)
Narrated ‘Ubaadah that the Messenger of Allah said, “Whoever seeks forgiveness for the believing men and believing women, Allah will write for him a good deed for EACH believing man and believing woman.” (Tabarrani)
Imagine the good you can get by this simple act.
5. Seek the knowledge of deen
Islam is a vast religion and it requires time and effort to learn about things that are particular to our deen. Learning is a never-ending process. No one can claim to have mastered it all.
Women in her menses can learn Islamic knowledge as much as she can through books, online, teachers etc
"Allah will exalt those who believe among you and those who have been granted knowledge to high ranks." (Qur'an)
"Seeking knowledge is obligatory upon every Muslim (male and female)." (Hadith)
6. Serving your parents:
A man once asked the Prophet Muhammad (Salallahu Alayhi Wasallim):
"'Should I join the jihad?' He asked, 'Do you have parents?' The man said, 'Yes!' The Prophet (Salallahu Alayhi Wasallim) said, 'Then strive by serving them!'" (Sahih Al-Bukhari, No. 5972)
Serving your parents and helping them in daily chores will gain you rewards you can never imagine. Menstruation doesnt stop anyone from doing that.
To be obedient and to show kindness to parents has been enjoined in the Holy Quran in such a manner as to say that among the noble deeds, to obey parents, treat them respectfully and to show kindness to them is next to worshipping Almighty Allah.
The Quran says, "Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor." - Surah Al Isra (17:23).
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) said:“What a loss is for him! What a loss is for him! What a loss is for him!” Someone asked: “Who, O Allah's Messenger?” He replied: “He whose parents reach old age, either one or both of them, and he does not use their presence (by being good to them, etc.) to cause him to enter Paradise.” (Muslim)
Abdullah bin Mas'ood (RA), observed: "I asked Allah's Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) which deed was the best." He replied: 'The Prayer at its appointed hour.' I (again) asked: "Then what?" He replied: 'Kindness to the parents.'... (Sahih Muslim: 120)
7. Dawah or calling others towards the deen of Allah.
"And who is better in speech than he who invites to Allah and does righteous deeds, and says: 'I am one of the Muslims.'" [al-Qur'aan, Fussilat(41):33]
Women on her menses can give dawah to other sisters and non-Muslims. We should spend our lives inviting others towards Allah whether they are Muslim or non-Muslim.
"Let there arise out of you a band of people inviting to all that is good, enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong. They are prosperous ones." (3.104)
So she can give dawah by text, email, direct or indirect
8. Uphold Best Manners, Character & Conduct
Being on periods doesn't mean one is allowed to have a bad attitude. Even in pain and discomfort, a woman on her menses must show the best moral conduct, character and she can ensure the same good manners throughout her life.
So let us strive to perfect our manners, character and conduct and know that these good deeds will be of the heaviest on the scales and will enable us to reach the highest ranks of Jannah.
In sha Allah
Charity is one of the things that a woman can do during these 5 days. It is not haram nor prohibited. Women in her menses should spend in the way of Allah as much as she can for charity extinguishes sins save one from the fire:
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) said: “Charity wipes out sins as water extinguishes the fire.” (Tirmidhi)
Charity should be paid secretly:
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) said: “Righteous deeds protect a person from an evil end; a charity spent in secret extinguishes Allah’s wrath; and maintaining good ties of kinship increases ones lifespan.” (Tabaraani)
Removing harmful objects from people’s way is also a charity:
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) said:“I saw a man enjoying himself in Paradise (simply) because he removed from a road a tree that used to harm people.”(Muslim)
Providing for one's family is a charity:
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) said:“If a man provides for his family hoping for the reward, it will be counted as charity for him.”(Bukhari & Muslim)
Sisters can volunteer to do good and charitable work in their locality and help others.
10. Serve and obey her Husband
Sisters must obey their husbands in all matters of good. She is promised Paradise for fulfilling her obligations unto her husband.
Abu Hurairah reported that Allaah’s Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said:
“If a woman prays her five (daily) prayers and keeps her private parts chaste and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any of the doors of Paradise she wishes.” [Ibn Hibbaan]
So whether a woman is on her menses or not she should do her utmost to serve and obey her husband in the best manner possible for the pleasure of Allah and in doing so she will not only be pleasing Allah but she will gain immense and unimaginable rewards.
Therefore women on her menses must never feel that she is not able to gain good deeds, blessings, and reward just because she is on her menses. There is NOTHING stopping her from gaining IMMENSE rewards equal to that of a man if not more. All that is required of her is an effort, the right good intentions, and sincerity in her actions.
May Allah enable all women on their Haiz period to do much good. Ameen